Types of domestic abuse

Everyone’s experience of abuse is different, but all forms of domestic abuse are serious and harmful.

Understanding the different types can help you recognise the signs and seek support.

Physical

Physical violence can get worse over time. It can lead to life-changing injuries or death.

Physical violence can include —

• Shoving
• Punching
• Kicking
• Hitting with an object
• Pulling hair
• Choking
• Cutting
• Restraining with force
• Hurting children, family members or pets

Emotional/ Psychological

Psychological abuse impacts your mental wellbeing. It can include —

• Threats
• Verbal abuse
• Name-calling
• Shaming
• Dictating where you go or see
• Depriving you of sleep
• Preventing you from working, studying, having relationships with friends and family
• Isolating you
• Damaging your belongings
• Stalking
• Controlling what you wear, eat, etc. — even your use of contraception

Financial

• Coercing you to take out debts you can’t afford
• Denying you access to bank accounts and family income
• Refusing to pay maintenance

Sexual

• Hurting you with objects
• Involving other people in sexual activities without your consent
• Forcing you to watch or copy pornography
• Sharing (or threatening to share) intimate images or videos of you

Coercive control

• Coercive control is a persistent pattern of controlling, coercive and threatening behaviour.
• The abuser can be a current or former partner.
• Coercive control can include all or some forms of domestic abuse — emotional, physical, financial, sexual, including threats.
• The abuser increasingly isolates you, manipulates you, and controls parts of your life.
• Coercive control is a criminal offence in Ireland.